Christmas is Coming

On the baby boards I'm a part of there has been a long running debate for as long as I've been posting there...which would be very nearly 6 years. Is it a horrible thing to teach your child to believe in Santa Clause?

There are mothers who insisted that they were so traumatized when they found out Santa wasn't real that they would never ever do that to their child...Traumatized really? I can see being traumatized over a car wreck, house fire, death of a pet or loved one but....Santa?

Anyway I think that Santa is a wonderful part of the magic of this time of year. My girls believe. My oldest just got a phone call from Santa a few days ago as a matter of fact.

If you teach your kid that Santa doesn't exist and he comes to school and ruins it for MY kids...you better watch out.LOL

Everyone Else's Needs

So this evening my husband and I were getting you know close before he had to go to work, the girls were in the dining room eating and we were making out. Well then there was the pitter patter of little feets running around in the kitchen. As mom I had to go deal with it. So I did, I cleaned her up and she started screaming, then the other child wanted to be cleaned up , then they wanted juice cups, then they wanted night night, so I went and stripped off the beds that needed to be cleaned started a load of laundry so that I could get that bedding washed and then dealt with putting their beds together and putting them down to sleep.
Afterward I looked into my room and saw my furious husband getting dressed. When I asked why he was angry I got told that he wasn't ummmm bull, so finally I pulled it out of him that I got him all turned on and left.
Apparently every one else comes before me, my feelings don't matter, the fact that I have a raging headache doesn't matter, the fact that HELLO I was turned on and didn't get it doesn't matter, only he matters to him, only the girls matter to themselves and I don't matter to anyone.

NO!

I belong to a community called BabyCenter, or BBC for those in the know. Today while reading threads I was stunned by the number of people who can't say NO. I will admit I'm among them. What is one of the first words your child learns? "No"...do you want juice? No. Do you want to go to bed? No. Etc. It's one of the first words out of our mouths as a child and one of the last words out of some of our mouths as adults. Why is that? Are we just people pleasers who are afraid of the reaction we'll get? I think that it's likely the case with many of us.

So, what are we going to do about it? I'll tell you what, we're going to practice saying no. Hey can you do A, B and C for me? NO! I have a full plate already and you can take the trash out yourself damn it! Mommy can I have a cookie? No you can't. Turn away and ignore the sulky face.

I've decided that I need to be more firm about it. When I wasn't properly medicated and I was just so tired of everything I gave in, a lot. I know it. So I'm going to learn that simple two letter word again.

Day Two Completely Gluten Free

I have Gluten issues I've never technically been diagnosed with anything but the fact that 7 years ago (when I was single) when I went on a carb free diet, that my ulcers and stomach issues disappeared and I lost 25 pounds in the first 2 weeks (doctor said it was probably bloat related to allergies). That all makes me figure that I'm allergic to gluten. SO here I am working on eating no gluten, jeez it's hard. Especially now that I have a family who would never in a million years give up wheat. So I have to eat only some of what I make. But I've decided that I want to feel better. So lets see how this goes.