Well yesterday at the psychiatrist I got the official diagnosis. Bi Polar Disorder II.
I think my husband hates me for it. I told him before we got married I had some problems with depression and anxiety and tried to explain. He didn't listen very well. The last 5 years have been me struggling to get him to understand me. It's going to be even worse now. He refuses to look up any information on it. He doesn't want to hear about it. I don't even want to talk to him about the genetics of it because that's all I'll hear about is how I gave something to our daughters.
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This is something you NEED to have your hubby's support with. My DH was dx'ed with Bipolar II in January of '07. Getting him on to his meds and stabilized was hard, but in the end, I have my husband back. The first thing your psych is probably going to do is either take you off, or change your antidepressants, because they almost have an opposite effect on those with Bipolar. I suggest picking up the book "loving someone with bipolar disorder" and reading it together. It helped me a lot when DH got his diagnosis. And try to remember that Bipolar doesn't mean crazy. It's just another kind of depressed.
Thanks for the suggestion. My doc decided to keep me on Effexor for now I have wicked withdrawl and he doesn't want to make me go through that unless absolutely necessary.
You have my most sincere sympathy on this.
While I am not bi-polar, I do have severe social anxiety issues. After about 10 years, I have managed to get it mostly under control, but hubby just DOES NOT UNDERSTAND. He often puts me into situations that have the potential to push me into a panic attack without even thinking, and then gets annoyed with me when I have to tell him that no, I'm not going to do XYZ.
I think you should tell him sternly, "Now that I finally I have a diagnoses, I can FINALLY begin to get better. I would hope as my spouse that I would have your support on this -- as hard as it can be -- as I would do for you in any situation."
Make him understand that while it's ok for him to feel scared or unsure about the matter, now is the time to start looking for the light at the end of the tunnel because you can start looking for the right kind of therapy for your diagnoses.
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